Trouble from Katlyn p: what effects are noticed if you are raised in a family without a mother due to divorce ?
my parents are divorced and i havent talked to my “mother” in about a year .. im in 10th grade and she left when i was in 6th .. id like someone thats been through this to answer it please
id really like to think that my mother still loves me but as of now im forced to think otherwise .. she has stolen my identity and my sister who is now 21 she was pregnant with my nephew and moved in with her and when she wanted to move back my mother took her baby and wouldnt give it back to her .. we just got him back about a month ago .. i really dont think that my mother is right in the head .. we do go to counseling .. me my dad and my brother that is .. my brother dosent seem to take care of himself and i tend to talk in my sleep im trying to understand all of this but thank all of you for your input it really does help me a lot
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Answer by sheloves_dablues
I don’t know of anyone who was raised without a mother due to a divorce.
Every divorce I know of resulted in joint custody and generous visitation by the other parent, so the kids always had both mother and father in their lives. Is there a reason your mom has been excluded from yours? Or has she chosen to exclude herself?
Sorry, I don’t have an answer for this one.
Answer by Leeloo
i didnt really have a dad. i missed out on typical dad daughter stuff and am a little skeptical of guys. meaning i dont trust them off the bat.
Answer by bullfrog
I am a father raising 3 kids 13, 12 and 9. Mom hasn’t been around for over a year and a half. Daughter doesn’t take good care of herself (hygiene) oldest son has violent mood swings and youngest sleepwalks now. We are all in therapy and doing it one day at a time.
Answer by ???now what???
You may not know this answer for a long time. There may be things that your mom doesn’t want to talk about to protect you. Life is hard. I quit talking to one of my children because of something so horrific, I wanted to protect my child. I’m too angry right now. I’m only human and doing the best I can. Maybe in a few years we can go to counseling together. She loves you more than you know.
Answer by William H
Its bad, but think of positives. Look at Shaq.
Answer by Leo
you are only subject to the effects you allow yourself to be subject to. be grateful you have at least one good parent and build from that. you will be just fine if you make that your goal
Answer by LSD
In any situation where a parent isn’t filling their “normal” role in their child’s life, there are going to be plenty of issues. It’s different for everyone, and it depends a lot on the parent you DO have around.
My parents gave me up to my grandparents when I was in sixth grade. My father was addicted to painkillers, and he also stole my identity and used my social security number to basically ruin my credit before I was 18. I’m now 23 years old, and I’ve cleaned up most of the mess he’s made — but I have not spoken to him in 4 years. I’ve gone through a lot of pain, but I have also learned a lot — in many ways, I feel that my life has made me more mature and able to handle difficult situations.
It’s really good that you are talking to a therapist. They’re the best source to find out about the “effects” that you’re dealing with. A good counselor can see problems that you may not even be aware of, and they can help you to find ways to make these issues easier.
After really looking at how my parents were in counseling, I was able to get out of an abusive relationship myself and find a really wonderful man to share my life with. I use my experiences to help other people through public speaking and writing.
Another important thing that it took me a very long time to understand is that if someone you love hurts you, you do not have to deal with them. I felt very guilty for not speaking to my father, until I realized that he did nothing but cause me pain and get me into trouble. For your own sanity, sometimes you have to cut ties with someone – no matter how much you love them or they love you.
I’ll end this long answer with a quote that I found when I was back in 6th grade that I have always loved:
“It’s always alright in the end. If it’s not alright, it’s not the end.”
I hope this helps a bit. Just know that you will be fine as long as you WANT to be fine. Know that you are awesome, and no one can change that fact but you.
Answer by Papa Bear
The affects are generally similar to that of being fatherless. Here’s a book on it:
Fatherless America : Confronting Our Most Urgent Social Problem
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Fatherless-America/David-Blankenhorn/e/9780060926830/?itm=1
This from my own experience, one affect you do not see is always having you mother put down by your father, or being told you’re just as bad as you mother. That’s very common with mother custody. Also, fathers are not always telling the kids what a deadbeat the mother is for not paying court ordered child support, but that’s because it’s rare for mothers to be ordered to pay child support.
Also, based on a government study on Absentee Parents, less than 5% of custodial fathers violate the mother’s court ordered visitation rights, while 60% of mothers do, often telling the children the father doesn’t want to see them.
It should be noted that less than 50% of custodial fathers remarry, or move in a girlfriend. I don’t know if this is by the father’s choice, or because they are more frequently rejected due to being a custodial father.
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