How close to someone you do not trust? Appears

Predicament written by Emma: How do you appear close to someone you don’t trust?

My problem is that father still maintains a close relationship with mothers side of the family. 6 years ago my mother died in accident my father always managed to close relationship my grandmother who I trust,and my two aunts who I will never trust

. When I was 15 I lived in Brazil with my aunt M and grandmother for 7 months alone from my brother or father. My aunts had forgotten about when I had soccer game across the city, when we where 15 min away I called both aunts 3 times they never answered their phone, and they didn’t pick me up until 1 am.

Another time I was tried after doing my homework they were so mad at me for not talking with them they yelled at me in Portuguese, and English for 2hrs, after the fight I cried myself as sleep. This happened at least 1 once a week, and all the times in between they tired to make me into their mini me, and on multiple occasions they pretended they were like my “Second Mother.” They are both single, 50, and big gossips, they gossiped about other cousins, and a lot of it was horrible. I wasn’t surprised to learn that they gossiped about me, and when I confronted them about they got me test. There reason was I wasn’t doing well in school, they thought I was depressed, and I had shaky hands. I always had shaky hands , I was not depressed in general, but stressed, as for not doing well I school its was all in Portuguese, and my first language is English. I never trusted her again with anything.

So right now my father, and I are going to for two weeks Brazil to visit my grandmother, who is sometimes manipulated by my aunts, and she is old. My grandmother wants to talk to me about her will, and i do love her. I am not going to lie I have no love for my aunts,but I love my father,and grandmother, I want to seem I have good relationship with my aunts for their sake. At the same time I want to keep all information about my life in Canada a secret from them, because I 100% sure they will use my information against me, and I don’t trust them with anything.

how can appear close to my aunts, at the same time keep them at arms length?

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Solution:

Answer by JoAnn

I suspect that your grandmother knows all about what kind of people your aunts are. Take the high road and be kind but don’t pretend. If you can’t say good things don’t say anything. Let your silence speak for itself. Just share what you want to share and no more. When you are pressed as families will do, have a broken record statement about what you want to share and just repeat it and repeat it and repeat it. Don’t let yourself be rattled. Your grandmother will respect you more if you are kind and do not try to lie. You will also have more respect for yourself, and that has to be number one.

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Mother and auntie

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That’s my mother as a baby, with her Aunt Persis (PD’s sister)

How close to someone you do not trust? Appears